Avoidant attachment

         Hi smart people, howdy? hopefully you always have the abundance of happiness, health and prosperity, today I would like to share about topic “Avoidant attachment”, the main reason why I choose that topic because not all people want to socialize with other people, so they tend to live cautiously and not to gather around with people who are considered to be unqualified person, if you ask me why some people are having avoidant attachment because they have a bad term with the past people who didn't hold responsibility very well,  they tend to hard to believe with people who are irresponsible with their job, their commitment and their loyalty, as we live in the part of social people, we can't avoid the bad memory or bad experience with other people in the past, all we can do as the next generation is being revolutionary maker, meaning, we become the independent person, I know it is hard to do, but if we can pass through this challenge, we will never be the same person for everlasting.

Remember this note; we are not always getting something we wished, sometimes we need to forgive ourselves from inevitable journey, such as betrayal, wildly expectation and instant gratification, if we just tail ourselves with the jerk people, as impact, our lives will get stuck between dilemma and reality, here is the first reason why people are having avoidant attachment; people don't build personal branding in themselves, as long as people don't build personal branding for several years, what they do is making themselves feel hatred with themselves and they will live like a prisoner, here is the second reason why people are having avoidant attachment; people build desperate living, we can't do something better if we don't try to associate with highly valuable people, here is the third reason why people are having avoidant attachment; people behave self-righteousness, remember; self- righteousness is different with self-esteem, self-righteousness is keeping themselves in the limitation, whereas, self-esteem is part of human's revolutionary habit, I think my explanation is enough, hopefully this article can give you an idea how to improve your life, good luck.   

Words of encouragement for him during hard times

         Hi smart people, howdy? hopefully you always have the abundance of happiness, health and prosperity, today I would like to share about topic “Words of encouragement for him during hard times”, the main reason why I choose that topic because not all women realize how to calm themselves during facing hard times with their spouses, if you ask me about the main problem why women can't calm because they don't recognize the love language in men's world, as we know that not all men need women's advice, do you know why? because men are more logical than women, besides that, men have many possibilities in their thought how to find solution rather than what woman can do, I say like this doesn't mean I discourage women's capability, sometimes putting oneself to self-quarantine time is more valuable for men to women, that's men's world, on the other hand, women feel difficult to adapt with self-quarantine time, if your position as wife, don't try to demand your husband to do something more than their capability even though you and your family are facing hard times, demand something more than husband can will induce the family dispute, here is the first thing woman needs to do how to encourage your husband during facing hard times; don't remind your husband about the past moment, do you know why?  because remind your husband about the past moment will inflict man's bad mood timing, besides that, hard time already happened now, remember this; logical person will ignore about the past timing and focus on the present moment, what you need to do as wife is asking a question " if you have something to tell or you shall need any assistance, you should contact me? and I will do the best for our family".

     Here is the second thing woman needs to do how to encourage your husband during facing hard times; you shouldn't blame the situation and burden your husband's mind with your complaint, as wife, you can entertain your husband by doing what your husband needs from your service, remember; when woman doesn't complain about the current situation, it will relieve 50% husband's bad mood and it helps man to find solution because man feels refreshened every time his wife doesn't do something burdened for husband's thought, Here is the third thing woman needs to do how to encourage your husband during facing hard times; remind about the purpose of family's longevity, meaning, a wife gives a new perception to husband's mind with the new vision, for example; when hard times begins, you say to your husband "I know we are facing hard times, we need to create a new atmosphere where it can enliven our spirit, how about we make a cup of tea and we pray together to Almighty God about the current situation we already dive in" , Here is the fourth thing woman needs to do how to encourage your husband during facing hard times; you can write down about your husband's strengths and show the written you wrote in the paper to your husband, this strategy can help you how to strengthen your husband's good mood level, I think my explanation is enough, hopefully this article can give you an idea how to improve your life, good luck.  

How to attract the right man

         Hi smart people, howdy? hopefully you always have the abundance of happiness, health and prosperity, today I would like to share about topic “How to attract the right man”, the reason why I choose that topic above because many people want to stick together with the right people, but unfortunately they don’t really know about the criteria of how to attract the right people, at this moment let me share something to you how to attract the right people in order to fulfill your best moment in your life, here is the first criteria how to attract the right man you want in your life; be a resource provider, means you don’t need to persuade other people to follow what you want, but you can provide what other people want through your service, if you have this criteria, you are not only be sought by the right people, but also your existence will be contested by unknown people who are looking for self-fulfillment, here is my suggestion; don’t try to demand other people to follow your desire, but you must observe what you can do for other people, don’t let other people will consider you like the opportunist,  the more you care about other people's problem, the stronger you become, before you can provide what other people desire, you must try fulfill what most people really avoid in this life, I think the best solution how to win the people’s attention is be a resource provider, do you know the reason why I say such thing? Because most people want to look for solution, not problem.

          Here is the second criteria how to attract the right man you want in your life; be a good listener to people's problem, the main reason why we need to train ourselves to become a good listener because most people don't want to become good listener, instead most people just want to become a true complainer, it’s not easy to be a good listener because not everyone loves with a problem, based on what I observe so far, every good listener has a good personality and also he really cares about other people's problem, besides that, not everyone really knows about the problem they face, that's why they need a good listener in order to detect a blind spot which happened to the complainer, remember this note; in order to get the high vibration energy, we need to lend our ears to others, so that we can hear carefully about what most people concern, sometimes we need to have the power of empathy in order to get a clear purpose from other people's experience, here is the third criteria how to attract the right man you want in your life; be a high target achiever to the customer's goal behavior the main reason why we need to be high target achiever because it will create a clear distinction between successful people's habit and unsuccessful people's habit, the more we achieve a high level of success, the more we create big attention to the right people who want to see that value, remember this note; good reputation will make big different result in the future, so make sure you can achieve the target that most people can’t get it, once you become a high target achiever, the more right people will find you, I think my explanation is enough, hopefully this article can give you an idea how to improve your life, good luck.  

Unlearn your pain

         Hi smart people, howdy? hopefully you always have the abundance of happiness, health and prosperity, today I would like to share about topic “Unlearn your pain”, the main reason why I choose that topic because not everyone realizes how to optimize the pain before it gives us with new power to our inner soul, based on psychological research; "the average people tend to avoid the pain and embrace the pleasure, the reason why people behave like that because most people consider pain is part of disease or disaster, in fact, it is not true, the most useful pain in this life is designed to empower our potential and also it is designed to apply the power of discipline to what we act, whereas, the most worst pain in this life is having to deal with regret after giving up to something worth to struggle for, remember this note; not all pains are useless, 80% pains are designed to strengthen human's mental strength and 20% pains are designed to be warry of the dangerous thing, sometimes the pain can drive you more focused on how to make your life works to what you can't deal and serve you well.

      If you consider the pain as enemy, you will not get anything worthy from the pressure where you have got from the pain, in my opinion; showing the gratitude is one of method how to utilize the pain where it comes to your life, at this moment let me share something to you about the strategy how to turn the pain to be new power and make sure you utilize the pain for unlocking your potential, here is the first pain you need to stick how to unlearn bad thing from your personal character; discipline, if you can’t turn a discipline as your habit, you will receive regret in many occasion, if you put a discipline into your life purpose, means, you will be able to unlearn bad thing from your personal character, 

Here is the second pain you need to stick how to unlearn bad thing from your personal character; commitment, if you can apply a commitment to your career, the nature will help you to improve your career where you can't always do, here is the third pain you need to stick how to unlearn bad thing from your personal character; consistency, this character belongs to the natural’s law, it’s big challenge and it's the highest level of pain, if you can apply this character into your habit, your career and your life journey will create magnificent masterpiece, furthermore your mental strength will not worry again about failure or setback because you follow the natural’s characters, let the universe works for you and you just need to work on your capacity, here is the last advice; unlearn from pain is not easy since we are surrounded by crisis and problem, all we can do as human being is how to prepare something for our inner capacity before the crisis comes or we develop our capacity through the pain, I think my explanation is enough, hopefully this article can give you an idea how to improve your life, good luck.  

Obstacle course

The balance of life

         Hi smart people, howdy? hopefully you always have the abundance of happiness, health and prosperity, today I would like to share about topic “Obstacle course”, the main reason why I choose that topic because not many of us realize how to detect obstacle course, if you ask me when the obstacle course is going to be active ? the obstacle course will be active when we don't optimize our skill, our knowledge, our integrity, our commitment to a clear goal, our reputation and our awareness, it sounds difficult, but that's life's challenge, you can't say " I don't like with the life's challenge", remember; life will never want to stay comfort for longer time, do you know why I say such thing because life is part of the survival arena, once we decide to stay comfort for longer time, time will crush good opportunity which may come to our life path, everything we see, we hear and we feel is going to meet the obstacle course as long as we try to step forward to unlock our hidden potential,  we all know that every opportunity can't be waited, nor the miracle, if we want to be great person who can master the situation, we must break our comfort zone which is trying to hold us back from growing and evolving, life will not give a damn about our current situation, we need to be a ready person as if the crisis always comes at us every day, basically obstacle course is not the part of disaster because it is just a test to know our current capacity, the real disaster in this life is comfort zone because it is trying to blockade our bright future, remember; the comfort zone is trying to show our incapability once we want to make decision while the crisis comes right away.

       Now I have question, do you know the reason why most people live in mediocre life? Because they keep glorifying about their own limitation and they prefer to do something for their limit rather than facing the new risk which may help them to upgrade their survival skill, besides that, people don't recognize how dire the comfort zone is, if you ask me why the comfort zone belongs to the most dangerous thing on earth because the comfort zone will blockade human's potential to grow, at this moment I would like to share some strategies how to countermeasure obstacle course, hopefully the strategies help you to improve your life journey, here is the first strategy you need to do when you meet obstacle course; change your perception, if you can't change your perception when you meet with obstacle course, you will fail to face obstacle course, finally you will get mad at yourself, here is the second strategy you need to do when you meet obstacle course; stop playing the victim, meaning, you try to blame for everything around you, if you behave like playing victim, you will not get solution, instead, you only get stressed, here is the third strategy you need to do when you meet obstacle course; find the information how to defend yourself from the feeling of upset, in addition, you need to practice how to be grateful to obstacle course's existence, when you can show deepest gratitude, you won the circumstance, I think my explanation is enough, hopefully this article can give you an idea how to improve your life, good luck.