Humans have to sort out what is inside them before their soulmate comes to them

   Hi, today I would like to share about the interesting topic, namely "Humans have to sort out what is inside them before their soulmate comes to them". The main reason why I choose that topic because not everyone realizes about self preparation, from the Psychology perception, self preparation means conveying a message about self-improvement and the law of attraction. Essentially, before rushing out to find a partner, focus on ‘coming home’ to yourself and sorting out what’s still in disarray, Fixing what is inside oneself is very difficult because a person must feel that he is "wrong and feel stupid" first in order to overcome his ego, Without knowing where the ego is, humans will not want to improve themselves, If we want something without preparing the ability to execute a decision, then we only attract things that are troublesome, remember : we don’t attract what we want; we attract who we are, it's meaning, > “what we know and what we don't know will also attract itself to come to our capacity, that's where we will be faced with an astonishing event, what we know will attract problem and what we don't know will attract wisdom”

Here is a more in-depth analysis of its meaning:

1. “Sort Out What’s Inside You First”

This is the most crucial part. “Sorting yourself out” doesn’t mean you have to be perfect, but rather achieving a state of emotional stability. Things that usually need sorting out include:

 Past Wounds: Healing trauma from previous relationships so you don’t carry old “baggage” into a new relationship.

 Making Peace with Yourself: Loving yourself so that you don’t seek a partner merely to fill a void or make up for a sense of inadequacy.

 Character Maturity: Improving bad habits, communication styles, and managing your ego.

2. "Your Soulmate Will Give You Signs"

There is a belief that like attracts like. When you are in harmony with yourself (have ‘sorted yourself out’), your ‘radar’ for finding a partner will become clearer.

Sharp Intuition: When your mind is at peace, you’ll find it easier to recognise who is genuine and who is merely passing through.

Mental Readiness: You’ll become more attuned to opportunities or encounters you might previously have missed because you were too caught up in your own internal drama.

Why Is This Concept Popular?

The logic is simple: We don’t attract what we want; we attract who we are. > “If we’re still a mess, there’s a high chance we’ll attract someone who’s just as much of a mess—or end up trapped in a toxic relationship.”

In conclusion: This statement encourages you to be patient and to treat your single years as the best time to invest in the quality of your soul. When your ‘vessel’ is ready and clean, quality ‘content’ will come naturally in ways that are often unexpected.

How to understand the concept of sustenance and how to manage it

   Hi, today I would like to share about the interesting topic, namely "How to understand the concept of sustenance and how to manage it", the main reason why I choose that topic because not everyone is aware how to use sustenance I'm the right purpose, There are some people who prioritize other people's interests over prioritizing their own needs, that is not the right way, The meaning of sustenance is facilities that are given for free, for that reason, use sustenance to prioritize yourself and then the interests of others, so, don't let yourself lacking from something you deserve it, From the perspective of the Sunnah of Islamic rule, the concept of ‘charity for oneself’ does indeed exist and has a strong foundation. This is often understood as prioritising one’s own livelihood and the fulfilment of personal needs before helping others.

The following are the textual evidence and their explanations:

1. Hadith narrated by Muslim (Priority of Livelihood)

There is a hadith that explicitly sets out the order of priority in spending one’s wealth. The Messenger of Allah ﷺ said:

> “Begin with yourself; give charity for yourself. If there is any surplus, then for your family. If there is any surplus again, then for your relatives. If there is any surplus again, then for such and such (others)…” (Narrated by Muslim, no. 997)

The meaning: Islam is a realistic religion. A person is not advised to give all their wealth to others whilst they themselves are starving or living in destitution. Meeting one’s own needs so as not to have to beg from others is considered charity and a righteous deed.

2. The Most Meritorious Charity (Afdhal)

The Messenger of Allah ﷺ also explained that the best charity is that given whilst one’s financial situation is still stable (not when one is already destitute).

> “The most excellent charity is that given from one’s surplus wealth. And begin with those who are your dependants.” (HR. Bukhari no. 1426)

In this context, ‘oneself’ and ‘immediate family’ are the first to be included in the list of dependants. Ensuring one’s own well-being so as to remain strong in worship and work is a form of investment for the Hereafter.

3. Qur’anic Verses on Balance

This principle is also supported by the Qur’an so that we do not give in excess to the point of causing hardship upon ourselves:

> “And do not make your hand tied to your neck (being stingy), nor stretch it out too far (being overly wasteful or charitable without consideration), lest you become blameworthy and regretful.” (QS. Al-Isra: 29)

Why Should You Prioritise Yourself?

 1. Preserving Dignity (Iffah): So that you do not become a burden to others or society.

 2. Strength for Worship: A body well-nourished and a calm mind, with basic needs met, will be better able to perform acts of obedience (prayer, fasting, work).

 3. Peace of Mind: Meeting one’s own needs helps alleviate anxiety, so that you can give to others more sincerely in the future.

Important Note

Although oneself is a priority, ‘charity for oneself’ here refers to the fulfilment of basic needs and health, not the gratification of desires or an excessively luxurious lifestyle.

Only after one’s own needs and those of one’s immediate family (children/spouse) have been met should the door to charity towards others be opened wide to bring about greater blessings.

Hopefully this article can give you an insight how to improve your career, good luck.

Is there a limit to the addictive taste that attacks human capacity?

   Hi, today I would like to share about the interesting topic, namely "Is there a limit to the addictive taste that attacks human capacity?" The main reason I chose that topic is because not everyone can overcome their addiction, We as humans do not need to be afraid when we are addicted to something interesting, our job is simply to direct our minds to focus on something more interesting than our expectations, In my personal opinion, what we need besides giving direction to our thoughts, we need to improve our intentions, Please note, if our intentions are in harmony with the basic laws of the universe, we will not be disappointed by the final result, let's continue discussing the feeling of addiction, when viewed from a different perspective, addiction is often seen as a vicious circle, but in psychology and neuroscience, this phenomenon has mechanical and cyclical limits that can be understood for intervention.

Below is an explanation of the limits and cycles of quitting addiction from a psychological point of view:

1. Biological Limitations: Tolerance and Saturation Points

Biologically, the brain has a homeostasis mechanism—a tendency to remain stable. When a person is exposed to a substance or opium activity continuously, the brain adapts:

 Tolerance: The brain lowers the sensitivity of dopamine receptors due to excessive "flooding" of pleasure. As a result, you need a higher dose just to feel "normal".

 Anhedonia: This is a limitation where once pleasant activities no longer provide happiness. At this point, addicts often no longer pursue fun (high), but only avoid suffering (sake/withdrawal).

2. Cycle of Change (The Stages of Change)

In clinical psychology, the Prochaska & DiClemente model explains that quitting addiction is not an instant event, but a cycle:

 1. Pre-contemplation: No intention to quit yet; no problem yet.

 2. Contemplation: Starting to realize negative impact but still hesitating to let go.

 3. Preparation: Create small plans (e.g. seeking professional help or avoiding triggers).

 4. Action: The real step stops completely or reduces the duration of the opium activity.

 5. Maintenance: Maintaining a new lifestyle and preventing recurrence.

3. "The Rock Bottom" and Psychological Boundaries

Often, the stopping limit is determined by the conditions Rock Bottom (lowest point). Psychologically, a person tends to quit when they (financial loss, relationship breakdown, health deterioration) is much greater than the (momentary pleasure) obtained from the opium.

4. Recovery Mechanisms: Neuroplasticity

The good news is, the human brain has the property of neuroplasticity. That is, the drug limit can be broken by retraining the neural pathways:

 Emotional detoxification: Identifies the inner wounds or stress at the root of addiction.

 Positive Substitution: Replaces instant dopamine surges with activities that provide long-term satisfaction (such as sports or creative hobbies).

 Cognitive Restructuring: Changing the automatic mindset that triggers the desire to return to addictive behavior.

Conclusion

Psychologically, addiction can stop, but rarely stop automatically without conscious intervention. The limitation lies in the willingness to deal with discomfort during the transition, where the brain is "calibrating" its dopamine levels to a healthy balance.