People often suppress or ignore their honest feelings preferring logic because it provides a sense of security and control. Whether we like it or not, this situation is sometimes taught by parents who often treat their children by lying for good purposes, In fact, lying is lying, it cannot represent the truth, a lie is an act used to cover up another lie, Here are several psychological and emotional factors underlie this phenomenon:
1. Self-Defense Mechanism
Being honest about one's feelings often carries significant emotional risks—such as fear of rejection, heartbreak, guilt, or conflict. Logic serves as a defense mechanism to minimize these emotional impacts by shifting focus to objective facts.
2. Fear of Uncertainty
Feelings or "gut feelings" are often vague, unpredictable, and full of speculation. In contrast, logic offers certainty, structure, and a clear cause-and-effect analysis. When someone feels threatened by the uncertainty of the future, they tend to cling to logical reasoning, which feels more measured.
3. Social Expectations and Environmental Conditioning
From childhood, many of us are taught to prioritize rational decisions over emotional decisions. There is a common perception that making decisions based on feelings is slow, emotional, or immature. Pressure from family, culture, or environmental norms often forces a person to choose the option that seems "reasonable" to others.
4. Cognitive Dissonance
When there is a sharp difference between what the heart feels and reality, intense mental discomfort arises. To resolve this conflict, a person often seeks rational justifications to mask their true feelings and regain composure.
5. Overthinking and Thought Distortions
The process of overthinking often distorts a situation to the point where genuine feelings are buried under dozens of negative "what-if" scenarios. Excessive logic traps a person in repetitive analysis and ignores simple intuitive signals.
Summary: The choice to prioritize logic over the heart is generally not due to a lack of feelings, but rather a form of self-defense to avoid being hurt by difficult-to-quantify emotional risks.
As adults, we need to evaluate ourselves every time we talk to others, especially those closest to us, Building trust doesn't take a short time, it takes years of proof until other people give us the label "trustworthy".