How to understand the concept of sustenance and how to manage it

   Hi, today I would like to share about the interesting topic, namely "How to understand the concept of sustenance and how to manage it", the main reason why I choose that topic because not everyone is aware how to use sustenance I'm the right purpose, There are some people who prioritize other people's interests over prioritizing their own needs, that is not the right way, The meaning of sustenance is facilities that are given for free, for that reason, use sustenance to prioritize yourself and then the interests of others, so, don't let yourself lacking from something you deserve it, From the perspective of the Sunnah of Islamic rule, the concept of ‘charity for oneself’ does indeed exist and has a strong foundation. This is often understood as prioritising one’s own livelihood and the fulfilment of personal needs before helping others.

The following are the textual evidence and their explanations:

1. Hadith narrated by Muslim (Priority of Livelihood)

There is a hadith that explicitly sets out the order of priority in spending one’s wealth. The Messenger of Allah ﷺ said:

> “Begin with yourself; give charity for yourself. If there is any surplus, then for your family. If there is any surplus again, then for your relatives. If there is any surplus again, then for such and such (others)…” (Narrated by Muslim, no. 997)

The meaning: Islam is a realistic religion. A person is not advised to give all their wealth to others whilst they themselves are starving or living in destitution. Meeting one’s own needs so as not to have to beg from others is considered charity and a righteous deed.

2. The Most Meritorious Charity (Afdhal)

The Messenger of Allah ﷺ also explained that the best charity is that given whilst one’s financial situation is still stable (not when one is already destitute).

> “The most excellent charity is that given from one’s surplus wealth. And begin with those who are your dependants.” (HR. Bukhari no. 1426)

In this context, ‘oneself’ and ‘immediate family’ are the first to be included in the list of dependants. Ensuring one’s own well-being so as to remain strong in worship and work is a form of investment for the Hereafter.

3. Qur’anic Verses on Balance

This principle is also supported by the Qur’an so that we do not give in excess to the point of causing hardship upon ourselves:

> “And do not make your hand tied to your neck (being stingy), nor stretch it out too far (being overly wasteful or charitable without consideration), lest you become blameworthy and regretful.” (QS. Al-Isra: 29)

Why Should You Prioritise Yourself?

 1. Preserving Dignity (Iffah): So that you do not become a burden to others or society.

 2. Strength for Worship: A body well-nourished and a calm mind, with basic needs met, will be better able to perform acts of obedience (prayer, fasting, work).

 3. Peace of Mind: Meeting one’s own needs helps alleviate anxiety, so that you can give to others more sincerely in the future.

Important Note

Although oneself is a priority, ‘charity for oneself’ here refers to the fulfilment of basic needs and health, not the gratification of desires or an excessively luxurious lifestyle.

Only after one’s own needs and those of one’s immediate family (children/spouse) have been met should the door to charity towards others be opened wide to bring about greater blessings.

Hopefully this article can give you an insight how to improve your career, good luck.

Is there a limit to the addictive taste that attacks human capacity?

   Hi, today I would like to share about the interesting topic, namely "Is there a limit to the addictive taste that attacks human capacity?" The main reason I chose that topic is because not everyone can overcome their addiction, We as humans do not need to be afraid when we are addicted to something interesting, our job is simply to direct our minds to focus on something more interesting than our expectations, In my personal opinion, what we need besides giving direction to our thoughts, we need to improve our intentions, Please note, if our intentions are in harmony with the basic laws of the universe, we will not be disappointed by the final result, let's continue discussing the feeling of addiction, when viewed from a different perspective, addiction is often seen as a vicious circle, but in psychology and neuroscience, this phenomenon has mechanical and cyclical limits that can be understood for intervention.

Below is an explanation of the limits and cycles of quitting addiction from a psychological point of view:

1. Biological Limitations: Tolerance and Saturation Points

Biologically, the brain has a homeostasis mechanism—a tendency to remain stable. When a person is exposed to a substance or opium activity continuously, the brain adapts:

 Tolerance: The brain lowers the sensitivity of dopamine receptors due to excessive "flooding" of pleasure. As a result, you need a higher dose just to feel "normal".

 Anhedonia: This is a limitation where once pleasant activities no longer provide happiness. At this point, addicts often no longer pursue fun (high), but only avoid suffering (sake/withdrawal).

2. Cycle of Change (The Stages of Change)

In clinical psychology, the Prochaska & DiClemente model explains that quitting addiction is not an instant event, but a cycle:

 1. Pre-contemplation: No intention to quit yet; no problem yet.

 2. Contemplation: Starting to realize negative impact but still hesitating to let go.

 3. Preparation: Create small plans (e.g. seeking professional help or avoiding triggers).

 4. Action: The real step stops completely or reduces the duration of the opium activity.

 5. Maintenance: Maintaining a new lifestyle and preventing recurrence.

3. "The Rock Bottom" and Psychological Boundaries

Often, the stopping limit is determined by the conditions Rock Bottom (lowest point). Psychologically, a person tends to quit when they (financial loss, relationship breakdown, health deterioration) is much greater than the (momentary pleasure) obtained from the opium.

4. Recovery Mechanisms: Neuroplasticity

The good news is, the human brain has the property of neuroplasticity. That is, the drug limit can be broken by retraining the neural pathways:

 Emotional detoxification: Identifies the inner wounds or stress at the root of addiction.

 Positive Substitution: Replaces instant dopamine surges with activities that provide long-term satisfaction (such as sports or creative hobbies).

 Cognitive Restructuring: Changing the automatic mindset that triggers the desire to return to addictive behavior.

Conclusion

Psychologically, addiction can stop, but rarely stop automatically without conscious intervention. The limitation lies in the willingness to deal with discomfort during the transition, where the brain is "calibrating" its dopamine levels to a healthy balance.

What is the role of emotional disinhibition in the family sphere

    Hi, today I would like to share about the interesting topic, namely "What is the role of emotional disinhibition in the family sphere?, the main reason why I choose that topic because not everyone can hold their emotional release safely when they show their anger to their family, In psychology, emotional disinhibition refers to a condition in which a person loses the ability to regulate or restrain their emotional responses. Now Imagine a car with faulty brakes; the driver sees an obstacle but cannot stop the vehicle.

Broadly speaking, psychological perspectives on this phenomenon are divided into several main dimensions:

1. Neuropsychological Perspective (Damage to the Brain’s ‘Brakes’)

From a biological perspective, emotional disinhibition is often linked to the function of the prefrontal cortex, the part of the brain responsible for executive function, self-control, and decision-making.

Limbic System vs. Prefrontal: The limbic system triggers raw emotions (anger, fear, joy). Under normal conditions, the prefrontal cortex filters these emotions before they are expressed.

 Medical Causes: This disinhibition often occurs in individuals with traumatic brain injury, dementia (particularly Frontotemporal Dementia), or neurodivergent conditions such as ADHD, where the brain’s natural ‘filter’ does not function optimally.

2. A Developmental Psychology Perspective

In human development, disinhibition is the ‘default’ state in toddlers. Young children do not yet possess mature neural circuits to delay gratification or conceal frustration.

 Regulatory Failure: If an adult exhibits disinhibition without brain damage, developmental psychology suggests a possible failure to learn emotional regulation strategies during childhood or exposure to chronic stress that has worn down the mental defence system.

3. Forms of Emotional Manifestation

Psychology categorises these manifestations of disinhibition into several observable behaviours:

 Impulsivity: Acting without considering the consequences (e.g., impulsive shopping when feeling excessively happy).

 Emotional Lability: Rapid and drastic mood swings (suddenly crying then laughing).

 Verbal/Physical Aggression: Outbursts of anger disproportionate to the trigger.

 Over-sharing: Revealing highly intimate personal details to strangers without feeling any social boundaries.

4. The Online Disinhibition Effect

In modern psychology (Cyberpsychology), the term ‘Online Disinhibition Effect’ is recognised. This phenomenon explains why people tend to be bolder, more rude, or more emotional on social media than in the real world. This is triggered by:

Anonymity: Feeling that one’s identity is hidden.

Invisibility: Not being face-to-face.

Asynchrony: Communication that does not occur in real-time provides a false sense of security from social consequences.

5. Therapeutic Approaches

Clinical psychology addresses emotional disinhibition through several methods focused on rebuilding the mental ‘braking system’:

Dialectical Behaviour Therapy (DBT): Highly effective for training distress tolerance and emotion regulation.

 Cognitive Behavioural Therapy (CBT): Helps individuals recognise the gap between triggers (stimuli) and responses, giving them time to think before reacting.

 Mindfulness: Training awareness so that individuals can observe their emotions without immediately acting on them.

Philosophically, this phenomenon reminds us of the Stoic concept of prohairesis (free will), where human strength actually lies in the ability to create a pause between sensory impressions and the actions taken.

Human limitations on space are beyond human control

    Hi, today I would like to share about the interesting topic, namely "Human limitations on space are beyond human control", the main reason why I choose that topic because many people try to control beyond their space control,  This actually drains human energy if we continue to force our own limits to execute a decision where it is beyond control, In psychology and philosophy (particularly Stoicism, which interests you), an understanding of the limits of human control is the foundation of inner peace and effective action. This view is often referred to as the Dichotomy of Control.

Psychologically, understanding these limits does not mean adopting a passive attitude or giving up, but rather about allocating cognitive and emotional energy appropriately to avoid mental exhaustion (burnout).

1. The Limits of Control (Circle of Influence)

In practical terms, human control is divided into two main areas:

 The Area Within Control (Internal):

   Mental Processes: Your thoughts, judgements, and perceptions of an event.

   Will: The decisions you make to act or refrain from acting.

   Values: The life principles, character, and personal integrity you uphold.

   Emotional Response: How you process your emotions after an event occurs.

 Areas Beyond Control (External):

   Outcomes: Project success, others’ appreciation, or financial gain.

   Others’ Actions: People’s opinions, a partner’s behaviour, or company policies.

   The Past and the Future: Events that have already happened or the uncertainty of tomorrow.

   Environmental Conditions: Weather, traffic congestion, or unforeseen disasters.

2. Psychological Perspectives on the Limits of Control

Modern psychology, particularly within the fields of Cognitive Psychology and Cognitive Behavioural Therapy (CBT), views issues of control through several lenses:

A. Locus of Control (Locus of Control)

Julian Rotter developed the Locus of Control theory to explain how people perceive the source of control in their lives:

Internal Locus of Control: A person believes that success or failure is the result of their own actions. This correlates with higher motivation, but if taken to extremes, it can lead to unnecessary guilt when events occur beyond one’s control.

 External Locus of Control: A person feels their life is controlled by fate, luck, or others. This often triggers a sense of helplessness (learned helplessness).

Ideal perspective: Healthy psychology encourages a moderate Internal Locus of Control, where individuals are aware of their responsibilities yet accept the limitations of external reality.

B. Learned Helplessness (Learned Helplessness)

When someone continually tries to control things beyond their control (such as changing another person’s character or forcing a successful outcome), they experience learned helplessness. A person stops trying because they feel their efforts yield no results. Understanding the limits of control is the primary way to break this cycle.

C. Cognitive Reframing (Reframing)

In psychotherapy, this technique is used to shift the patient’s focus. For example, rather than trying to control whether someone likes us (external), we shift the focus to how we act with courtesy and integrity (internal). Control shifts from the goal to the process.

3. Integration into Your Professional Life

As a psychotherapist with an engineering background and an interest in Stoicism, you may find that this concept resembles control systems in engineering:

In engineering, you manage inputs to produce outputs. However, in human psychology, outputs (behaviour or outcomes) are always influenced by unpredictable variables (‘noise’ or ‘interference’).

 If you force an unstable system (by attempting to exert full control over external factors), your psychological system will crash or overheat.

Conclusion:

A loss of self-identity often stems from a strenuous effort to control external factors (material possessions, status, recognition) that are actually beyond our control. When those external factors are lost, we feel shattered because our ‘sphere of control’ has become fused with them.

By reclaiming your control space through your core values and the processes you undertake, you build a stronger psychological defence against the turbulence of the outside world.

As you embark on your new career as a coordinator in the industrial sector, where you will interact more frequently with complex external variables

Humans should not focus on certain objects, places or people to avoid feelings of attachment

  Hi, today I would like to share about the interesting topic, namely "Humans should not focus on certain objects, places or people to avoid feelings of attachment.", the main reason why I choose that topic because many people are too obsessed with the things that can't be controlled, in that circumstances will inflict overthinking issue for longer period, I personally do not recommend you to focus on something that cannot be completely controlled, in Modern psychological perspectives, particularly within the fields of Cognitive Psychology and Behavioural Psychology, it offers deeper thinking process, when the topic touching on the inner realm, but the topic above indirectly guides us not to follow our desires, but to surrender to fate, Although Haanel’s statement is steeped in the philosophy of New Thought and metaphysics, its underlying principles can be explained through the scientific mechanisms of the human mind.

The following is an overview from a psychological perspective:

1. Locus of Control (Internal vs. External Control)

The statement “external circumstances are merely effects” aligns closely with the concept of Internal Locus of Control.

 Analysis: Individuals who believe they have control over their own actions and thoughts tend to be more resilient and proactive.

 Psychological Implications: When you stop focusing your energy on uncontrollable external variables (such as other people’s behaviour or a specific location), you redirect your mental resources towards what you can control: your responses, attitudes, and self-efficacy. This directly reduces anxiety and boosts self-efficacy.

2. Selective Attention and Confirmation Bias

Why does focusing on “goals” rather than “objects/people” 

Have a psychological basis?

 Reticular Activating System (RAS): This is the part of the brain that filters the millions of pieces of information entering our senses. When you set an "aspiration" (a clear mental goal), you are indirectly instructing the RAS to be more attuned to information, opportunities, or people relevant to that goal.

 Confirmation Bias: Once the mind is focused on an aspiration (ideal), the brain tends to seek evidence that supports that belief. Thus, the outside world seems to "change" not because of mystical factors, but because you begin to notice opportunities that your brain previously overlooked.

3. Cognitive Reframing and Self-Fulfilling Prophecy

The statement that "the cause is a mental state" is at the heart of Cognitive Theory.

 Concept: Human emotions and behaviour are not directly determined by events (objects/places/people), but rather by our interpretation or cognitive schemas of those events.

 Self-Fulfilling Prophecy: If your mental state is focused on "aspirations" (positive beliefs), you will behave consistently with those goals. This behaviour then triggers reactions from the social environment that often validate your initial beliefs.

Critical Notes from Psychology

Although this principle has a strong foundation in personal development, modern psychology offers an important caveat:

 The Risk of Magical Thinking: Psychology warns against mental focus turning into "magical thinking" (believing that merely thinking about aspirations will make things appear instantly without concrete action). Aspirations must be followed by behavioural execution

Ignoring External Reality: Psychology also emphasises that completely ignoring others or the environment can be harmful. We are social beings. Mental health often depends on the quality of our interpersonal relationships and our adaptation to environmental realities.

Conclusion

Psychologically, this statement is a form of cognitive focus training. By shifting focus from unpredictable external variables to manageable “mental states”, you create a stable foundation for more effective decision-making and action.

In clinical practice, this is similar to Cognitive Behavioural Therapy (CBT) techniques, where we train clients to change their thought patterns (cognitions) so that their emotions and the outcomes of their actions in the real world become healthier and more purposeful.