How to deal with the pressure of urgent desires

  Hi, today I want to share an interesting topic, namely "How to deal with the pressure of urgent desires", The main reason why I chose this topic is because many people are often tempted by non-urgent cravings, some of them, there are many people who try to control themselves when the non of urgent desires comes by putting their money to the safe account, according to some observers, people are unable to control their non urgent cravings because they are used to feeling comfortable in places that do not strengthen their mental state and they lack of money management acumen, here are some strategies to help you manage and avoid non-urgent cravings.

Understand Your Triggers

The first step is to identify what triggers the craving. Triggers can be social media ads, discount offers, or simply boredom. Once you know your triggers, it's easier to avoid them. For example, if you're often tempted by ads while browsing social media, try reducing your time on those platforms or turning off shopping notifications.

Create a Wish List

Whenever you think about buying something, don't buy it right away. Instead, write it down on your wish list. Wait 24 or 48 hours before making a decision. Often, the urge will fade over time, and you'll realize you don't really need it.

Delay Decisions

Delay non-urgent purchases. Give yourself time to think. Ask yourself these questions: "Do I really need this?", "Will this add value to my life?", and "Do I already have something similar?". Delaying decisions will help you make more rational choices.

 Distract Yourself

When an urge arises, immediately divert your attention to something else. Engage in an activity you enjoy, such as reading a book, exercising, or meeting a friend. Diverting your focus will help reduce the urge to buy non-urgent items.

Evaluate Long-Term Value

Before purchasing, consider the long-term value of the item. Will it provide lasting happiness or benefits, or just a momentary pleasure? Understanding the difference between needs and wants can help you avoid unnecessary spending.

By consistently applying these tips, you will find it easier to control your desires and make wiser decisions.

It's natural to have wild desires from a young age, as youth is full of energy, curiosity, and strong drives. However, if left unchecked, they can lead a person in a self-defeating direction. There are several practical ways to "curb" these urges without killing your spirit:

1. Recognize the source of the desire

Ask yourself: "Is this a real need or just a momentary desire?".

By distinguishing between needs and wants, you can be more selective.

2. Practice self-control gradually

Don't reject all desires immediately, as this can be frustrating.

Start by postponing: "I want this, but I'll wait." Over time, your brain will get used to the fact that desires don't have to be fulfilled immediately.

3. Fill your time with meaningful activities

Exercise, learning a new skill, writing, or social activities can channel energy.

Wild desires often arise when the mind is empty.

4. Set clear boundaries (self-boundaries)

For example: "I won't open certain apps after 10 p.m.."

 These small boundaries reduce the opportunity for wild desires to develop.

5. Get closer to spiritual values

Remember that desires cannot be eradicated, but they can be directed.

Prayer, dhikr, or reading holy books help calm the heart and provide a long-term perspective.

6. Find supportive friends

The environment is very influential. Friends who have a clear direction in life can instill positive enthusiasm.

7. Use a "wish journal"

Write down all your desires every day.

After a week, evaluate: which ones are truly important, and which ones were simply spurred on by fleeting emotions.

Not everyone has the right to choose for an option

  Hi, today I want to share an interesting topic, namely "Not everyone has the right to choose for an option", the reason I chose this topic is because many people are frustrated because they don't have the opportunity to choose, They think that living in this world has the freedom to choose, but it turns out it is not as they imagined, A person doesn't always have a choice due to various factors that influence their life. Essentially, the freedom to choose is influenced by four main factors: internal, external, psychological, and philosophical.

Internal Factors

Internal factors are conditions that originate within oneself. For example, someone experiencing severe depression may feel they have no choice or lack the energy to make a decision. They feel trapped, and their ability to see or pursue other options is limited. This is not because they don't want to, but because their mental state is limiting them.

External Factors

External factors are conditions beyond a person's control. These could include poverty, political instability, or social pressure.

* Poverty: A person living in poverty may be forced to take a low-paying job, even if they dislike it, just to survive. Options for pursuing a better career, education, or hobbies become limited because all energy and time must be focused on survival.

* Social Pressure: In some cultures or families, a person may feel forced to follow a certain path, such as marriage or work in a certain field, because of strong expectations from family or society. Going against these expectations can result in social exclusion or sanctions.

 * System Limitations: Another example is in emergency situations, such as natural disasters or war. People are faced with very limited choices: evacuate or stay, both of which may carry high risks.

Psychological Factors

Psychologically, some people experience "decision fatigue." Our brains have a limited capacity to make decisions in a day. When faced with too many choices, or very difficult choices, we can become overwhelmed and end up feeling "choiceless," or we give in to the easiest option, even if it's not the best.

Philosophical Factors

Philosophically, views on free will vary widely. Determinism holds that all events, including human choices, are predetermined by predetermined causes. According to this view, free will is an illusion. We feel like we're making decisions, when in fact, we're simply following a path predetermined by biological, environmental, and genetic factors.

In contrast, libertarianism believes that humans have true free will and can make choices that are not fully determined.

So, when someone feels like they have no choice, it could be a combination of many things. Sometimes, there simply isn't an ideal choice.  Sometimes, external or internal constraints are so powerful that they affect our ability to choose.

All of these factors demonstrate that freedom of choice is not something everyone possesses in equal measure. The lives we live are the result of a complex interaction between the choices we make and the constraints we face.

Remember one thing, a person can be considered worthy of making a choice because of several underlying factors:

Self-Awareness

They know what they are facing, the consequences of their choices, and what they truly need, not just a momentary desire.

Ability to Take Responsibility

Choices always have consequences. People who can accept the results of their choices—both good and bad—are more worthy of making choices than those who simply seek results without responsibility.

Maturity (Emotional & Intellectual)

A mature person will consider all aspects, not rush, and not be driven solely by emotion.

Freedom from Pressure

Being worthy of making choices means that the choice is truly authentic, not merely following the crowd, being forced, or being manipulated by others.

Values & Ethics

People with values (e.g., not harming others, respecting justice, protecting oneself from evil) will make healthier choices.

Readiness to Face Risk

Every choice carries a risk. Those who are worthy of making choices are those who are ready to accept risks, not those who simply hope for a perfect outcome. 

In summary: the right to choose arises when a person is aware, free, and ready to take responsibility for the consequences.

The difference between tawakal and despair

   Hi, today I want to share an interesting topic, namely "the difference between tawakal and despair",  The main reason why I chose this topic is because many people feel helpless in facing the crisis in various circles,  Many people do not know how to survive in a crisis, in various religions many religious leaders teach how to put their trust in God, Tawakal in Islam has a very deep meaning and is one of the pillars of faith. Etymologically, the word "tawakal" comes from Arabic which means to surrender, represent or surrender completely to Allah' s destiny.

 However, the meaning of tawakal in Islam is not just surrender or waiting for a miracle without effort. Tawakal is an attitude of heart that includes two main things:

  * Try and make serious efforts. This is an absolute first step. A Muslim who relies on trust must use all his abilities, thoughts and energy to achieve goals or face problems. Rasulullah SAW said: "Tie your camel, then put your trust in Allah." This hadith shows that effort (tying the camel) must be done first before surrendering to Allah (tawakal).

  * Surrender the final result completely to Allah (God's name in Islam). After all maximum efforts have been made, a Muslim must let go of anxiety and worry about the results. He must believe with full confidence that whatever Allah has ordained is the best for him, because Allah is All-Knowing and All-Wise.

 Thus, tawakkal is a combination of hard work and sincere surrender to Allah. It is a work of the heart, where one believes that only Allah has absolute control over all things, while our efforts are merely a means or means commanded by Him.

Characteristics of someone who has tawakkal:

* Not easily discouraged: They know that failure is part of Allah's destiny and may have wisdom behind it.

* Their life is more peaceful: They are not haunted by excessive worry because they believe that their sustenance and fate have been determined by Allah.

* Optimistic and positive-minded: They always see everything with a positive perspective, believing that Allah will provide the best.

* Not arrogant: They realize that their success is not solely due to their own efforts, but rather due to Allah's help and grace.

In short, tawakkal is a strong belief that Allah will provide for all the needs of His servants who submit after doing their best. As Allah says in the Qur'an, At-Talaq verse 3:

"And whoever places his trust in Allah, He will suffice him."

In Islam and from a psychological perspective, humans should not despair because:

1. From a Religious Perspective

Allah forbids despairing of His mercy.

In the Quran:

"Do not despair of Allah's mercy. Indeed, no one despairs of Allah's mercy except the disbelievers." (Surah Yusuf: 87).

Despair means not believing that Allah is Almighty to change the situation, even though Allah says that with every difficulty there is ease (Surah Al-Insyirah: 5-6).

Despair can cause someone to abandon prayer, worship, and endeavor, even though these are actually the doors to help.

2. From a Psychological Perspective

Despair causes the brain to focus only on problems, not solutions. This triggers stress, depression, and feelings of helplessness.

Hope is the energy that keeps people moving and searching for solutions. Without hope, motivation is lost.

Many successful people begin with repeated failures, but they never give up.

 3. From the Perspective of Life

Life is a cycle: today is difficult, tomorrow may be easy.

Humans don't know God's plan; today's problems may be the path to greater goodness in the future.

By not giving up, humans open up opportunities to learn, grow, and discover a deeper meaning in life.

👉 So, not giving up is a form of faith, mental health, and a life strategy.