Pessimism doesn't need to be taught like optimism

   Hi, today I want to share an interesting topic, namely "Pessimism doesn't need to be taught like optimism" The main reason why I chose this topic is because many people feel like they are victims of pessimism rather than optimizing real actions, It is important to know that optimism does not need to be forced to appear in our spirit, it will arise if we do something that leads to peace in our hearts, instead of doing something that keeps us from peace of heart, Optimism helps us see opportunities, take risks, and bounce back from failure. It's an attitude that drives us to action and has hope for a better future.

On the other hand, pessimism tends to see obstacles and shortcomings. If pessimism is taught excessively, it can hinder innovation and progress. However, having a healthy dose of realism and even pessimism can be important.

When Can Pessimism Be Helpful?

* As a Balance. Pessimism can help balance excessive optimism, which can sometimes lead to unwise decisions. By considering the worst-case scenario, we can be more prepared and cautious.

* Contingency Planning. Pessimism can encourage us to create a backup plan or "plan B." This helps anticipate problems and prepare solutions before they arise.

* Risk Reduction. Healthy pessimism can serve as a reminder not to be overconfident. It can make us more thorough in evaluating risks before taking major steps.

Why Is Optimism More Important to Teach?

 Teaching optimism is more important because this attitude tends to have a greater positive impact. Optimism doesn't mean ignoring reality, but rather choosing to focus on things we can control and create solutions. Optimism helps us motivate ourselves, overcome challenges, and maintain mental health.

Rather than teaching pessimism outright, it's better to teach balanced realism. Realism teaches us to view situations objectively, including their potential strengths and weaknesses. This approach allows us to be realistically optimistic, that is, to see hope while still preparing for challenges.

So, instead of focusing on teaching pessimism, we should reinforce optimism coupled with a realistic attitude. This way, we can dare to dream and strive, while remaining wise in facing reality.

Humans cannot completely avoid pessimism. Pessimism is a natural part of how we think and feel. There are times when we tend to see the negative side or feel uncertain about the future. This can happen due to bad experiences, failures, or difficult situations.

However, what we can do is learn to manage and overcome pessimism so that it doesn't dominate our lives. Managing pessimism doesn't mean pretending everything is fine, but rather trying not to get caught up in negative thoughts.

How to Manage Pessimism

Here are some ways to manage pessimism:

* Be Aware of Your Thoughts. Recognize when you start having pessimistic thoughts. Instead of immediately believing them, ask yourself: "Is this thought true? What evidence do I have?"

* Focus on What Can Be Controlled. Often, pessimism stems from worrying about things beyond our control. Choose to focus on small steps you can take now to improve the situation.

* Practice Gratitude. Each day, take time to think about or write down some of the good things that have happened. This helps shift the focus from the shortcomings to the positive things already in your life.

* Time Limits for Pessimistic Thinking. Allow yourself to feel pessimistic, but limit the time. For example, "I'm going to think about all the worst-case scenarios for 15 minutes, then after that, I'll focus on finding solutions."

* Seek Support. Talking to friends, family, or professionals can be very helpful. They can provide a different perspective and help you see the situation from a more balanced perspective.

While we can't completely eliminate pessimism, we can learn not to let it get in the way. By managing pessimism, we can become more resilient and maintain hope amidst challenges.

Anxiety does not go away by itself

  Hi, today I want to share an interesting topic, namely "Anxiety does not go away by itself", The reason I chose this topic is because many people experience a worry that is not their right to feel, The emotion will move to a higher vibrational energy if humans are able to divert their attention to something interesting to try, Anxiety doesn't simply "go away" or "get rid of" itself, especially if it's severe or long-lasting. Anxiety is the body's natural response to stress or threat, and in small doses, it can actually be beneficial. However, when anxiety becomes excessive, it can interfere with daily life. Like other illnesses, chronic anxiety often requires proper treatment. It won't simply disappear without effort or intervention.

Managing Anxiety

Rather than trying to eliminate anxiety completely, a more realistic and effective approach is to manage and reduce its intensity. There are several ways to do this:

1. Making Lifestyle Changes

* Regular Exercise: Physical activity helps release endorphins, hormones that improve mood and reduce stress.

* Adequate Sleep: Lack of sleep can worsen anxiety symptoms. Aim for 7-9 hours of sleep each night.

* Healthy Diet: Avoid caffeine and excess sugar, which can trigger feelings of anxiety. Consume nutrient-rich foods.

 2. Practice Relaxation Techniques

* Breathing Exercises: Take a deep breath in through your nose, hold it for a few seconds, and then exhale slowly through your mouth. This helps calm the nervous system.

* Meditation and Mindfulness: These exercises help you focus on the present moment and reduce worry about the past or future.

3. Seek Professional Help

This is the most important step if your anxiety is becoming very bothersome.

* Therapy: A psychologist or psychiatrist can help you understand the root causes of your anxiety and teach you effective coping strategies. Cognitive behavioral therapy (CBT) is a very effective type of therapy for anxiety.

* Medical Consultation: A doctor or psychiatrist can determine whether medication is necessary to help manage your anxiety symptoms.

So, anxiety doesn't go away on its own like the common cold. It requires conscious and consistent effort to manage it. If you feel your anxiety is becoming overwhelming, it's highly recommended to seek professional help.

Besides the three methods above-mentioned, you may already know (for example, breathing techniques, mindfulness, and exercise), there are several other methods proven to help reduce anxiety:

1. Limiting Stimulants

Coffee, tea, or energy drinks containing caffeine can trigger heart palpitations, making anxiety worse. Cutting back often helps.

2. Journaling

Writing down anxious thoughts can help separate facts from exaggerated worries.

You can use a simple format like: "What makes me anxious → what I can control → what I need to let go."

3. Applying Grounding Techniques

A simple example: the 5-4-3-2-1 technique (listen to 5 things you see, 4 things you feel, 3 things you hear, 2 things you smell, and 1 thing you taste).

This helps shift your mind from anxiety to the present moment.

 4. Listen to Calming Music

Slow-tempo music or nature sounds (such as rain or waves) can help reduce body tension.

5. Maintain a Regular Sleep Pattern

Lack of sleep makes the brain more reactive to stress. Getting enough sleep can be a big factor in reducing anxiety.

6. Try Aromatherapy or Gentle Herbal Remedies

Lavender, chamomile, or peppermint (in essential oil or tea form) have a mild calming effect for some people.

7. Connect with a Trusted Person

Talking about your feelings with friends, family, or a counselor can help reduce feelings of isolation and clarify your perspective.

Why do so many people find it so hard to be themselves

  Hi, today I want to share an interesting topic, namely "Why do so many people find it so hard to be themselves" The main reason why I chose this topic is because many young people don't know about themselves including their potential, Besides that, since childhood many people aren't educated to discover what's inside them through spiritual experiences, and they're accustomed to trusting the influence of their external environment rather than seeing the world from within, that is their biggest problem, but now I want to discuss more deeply about how to recognize your own existentiality, let's break this down about the causes why we can not get information to recognize ourselves, here are from several perspectives—psychological, social, and spiritual.

🌪️ 1. Because from childhood, we're shaped to be "someone else."

We grow up not with the question, "What do you like?", but with the words: "Don't be like that, you'll embarrass others." "A good boy should be like this." "What will people say?"

We are shaped by other people's standards first, not by our conscience.

🧠 2. Because we're too busy comparing.

Social media accelerates this. We see the best parts of other people's lives and then compare them to our deepest wounds.

Then feelings arise: "I'm not good enough." "I should be like her." "I don't deserve to be me."

Comparison is the quickest way to lose our identity.

 🎭 3. Because we wear masks to be accepted

We're afraid of being rejected, being seen as weird, not attractive enough, not meeting the "standard of success."

As a result, we pretend—being smart, cool, strong, funny, even though it's exhausting.

But wearing a mask can make us forget our true selves.

🔒 4. Because of unhealed wounds

Sometimes we struggle to be ourselves because we feel our true selves are unworthy.

This could be due to childhood trauma, rejection, or feelings of failure that haven't been accepted.

"I'm afraid people will find out who I really am... and they'll leave."

🧘‍♀️ 5. Because we're not used to being quiet and honest with ourselves

The world is so noisy.

We're busy chasing validation, but rarely sit still and ask ourselves: Who am I without all my accomplishments? What really makes me alive? If I didn't have to please anyone, what would I do?

💡 So... how do I start being myself?

 These small steps can help how to recognize our deep self:

✅Know your inner voice: Make a habit of meditating for 5–10 minutes per day. Listen to your inner voice without judgment.

✅Slow down: Pause. See if what you're pursuing is truly what you want.

✅Have the courage to say no: You don't have to be liked by everyone. Be firm about what you're not.

✅Accept your wounded parts: Don't hide them. Embrace them. Forgive them. Nurture them.

✅Shrink the outside world, enlarge the inside world: Compare less. Know more.