Why do people only feel loss after they lose something

 

 Hi, today I want to share an interesting topic, namely "Why do people only feel loss after they lose something?" The main reason why I choose this topic is because not many people are aware of what a reality shows to them, The topic of discussion this time is about useless regrets which is often done by human whom can't see the valuable thing, Many people do not realize that what reality shows is part of the consequences, basically consequence is related to awareness, attachment, and human presence, humans often think that what they receive is part of their hard work, The reality is not like that, what humans receive is part of a form of test from Allah whether human will choose to use it for good purpose or bad purpose.

Here are some of the main reasons Why do people often feel lost when they lose something :

1. Awareness arises through absence

People often don't realize the value of something while it's there, because its presence feels "ordinary." When something is gone, the emptiness it leaves behind becomes apparent, and only then do we truly realize its significance.

Example: When the electricity is on, we don't think much of it. But when it goes out, we realize how important it is.

2. Gratitude often comes too late

Gratitude and appreciation often come after the experience of loss. People easily get used to the comfort and presence of certain people or things, then take them for granted.

3. Emotional attachments aren't always conscious

Sometimes we have an emotional bond with something, but don't fully realize it until it's gone. Loss acts as a kind of "mirror" for the heart, showing how important that thing was in our lives.

4. Humans learn through pain

Loss is painful.  But it is precisely from pain that humans can learn and grow so as not to be bound by the fleeting pleasures of this world. Pain makes us re-examine our values, priorities, and relationships.

5. Presence is difficult to see when there is too close a distance (like a hand blocking our view).

This is just as we cannot see our own face without a mirror, so too sometimes we cannot see the value of something because it is too close. When humans experience a loss that distances us, from that distance we can see more clearly.

6. Human Nature: Awareness through Loss

Spiritually, this is part of human nature—awakening and returning to God only after experiencing emptiness. Sometimes loss is a path to higher awareness.

In conclusion: we need to train ourselves to be grateful for the gifts from Allah, whether in a state of joy or sorrow, Sometimes we need to close our eyes when other people get worldly pleasures and we just use what Allah has given us, If what we receive can remind us of Allah's goodness, it means we can use it to give what we can to other people.

What makes heart wounds difficult to heal?

 Hi, today I want to share an interesting topic, "What makes heart wounds difficult to heal?" The reason I chose this topic is because many people experience the phenomenon of heartache that is difficult to heal, It is important to know that humans cannot be separated from the past, social pressure and the people closest to them, Sometimes the closest people have more potential to leave emotional wounds than the furthest people. Emotional wounds, or emotional trauma, can be very difficult to heal because they involve the complexity of thoughts, emotions, and even the body's physical responses. Unlike visible physical wounds, emotional wounds are hidden and often require a deeper healing process.

Here are some factors that make emotional wounds difficult to heal:

1. Denial and Avoidance

Often, individuals who experience emotional wounds tend to deny or avoid the painful feelings they feel. They may try to forget, ignore, or distract themselves from the traumatic experience. However, to heal, these emotions need to be acknowledged and processed. Avoidance actually makes the wound fester inside.

2. Lack of Understanding and Validation

Many people are unaware that they have emotional wounds, or they feel that their experiences are not "traumatic" enough to be considered emotional wounds. A lack of understanding of what emotional wounds are and validation from those around them can hinder the healing process. If the environment is unsupportive or even dismissive of their feelings, individuals will feel alone and find it difficult to open up.

 3. The Influence of the Inner Child

Emotional wounds often stem from traumatic experiences in childhood (the inner child), such as bullying, abuse (verbal, physical, emotional, or sexual), parental divorce, or disharmonious relationships. These childhood experiences shape thought patterns and behaviors that are difficult to change later in life, as they are deeply ingrained in the subconscious.

4. Negative Thought Patterns and Self-Blame

People with emotional wounds tend to have repetitive negative thought patterns, often blaming themselves (self-blame), or feeling worthless. These thoughts continually feed the pain and prevent them from seeing themselves in a positive light, thus hindering recovery.

5. Difficulty Forgiving (Self and Others)

Forgiveness is a crucial part of healing emotional wounds. However, it can be one of the most difficult. Difficulty forgiving oneself for what happened (sometimes they feel responsible for the trauma that befell them) or forgiving others who caused the wound continues to bind them to the past and negative energy.

 6. Social Isolation and Lack of Support

When someone has emotional wounds, they may tend to withdraw from social circles and isolate themselves. This leads to a lack of emotional support from friends, family, or the community, which is crucial in the healing process.

7. Feelings of Fear, Anxiety, and Helplessness

Traumatic experiences often leave deep feelings of fear, anxiety, and helplessness. These feelings can persist and make individuals reluctant to confront or address their wounds, for fear of experiencing the same pain again.

8. Lack of Professional Intervention

Emotional wounds, especially severe ones, often require professional help from a psychologist or psychiatrist. Without appropriate therapy, individuals may lack the tools or strategies to process their trauma healthily. Many are reluctant to seek help due to stigma, cost, or lack of awareness.

9. Lack of Commitment and Consistency in Healing

Healing emotional wounds is not an instant process; it requires time, energy, and consistent commitment.  Some people may try for a while and then give up because they feel like there's no change, even though the process is actually gradual.

10. Experiencing Repeated Triggers

Certain situations, places, people, or even smells can act as triggers that remind them of traumatic experiences. Repeated exposure to these triggers can reopen wounds and hinder the healing process.

Healing emotional wounds is a journey. If you or someone you know is struggling with emotional wounds, it's important to seek support and, if needed, help from a mental health professional.