Hi, today I want to share an interesting topic, namely "Why do people only feel loss after they lose something?" The main reason why I choose this topic is because not many people are aware of what a reality shows to them, The topic of discussion this time is about useless regrets which is often done by human whom can't see the valuable thing, Many people do not realize that what reality shows is part of the consequences, basically consequence is related to awareness, attachment, and human presence, humans often think that what they receive is part of their hard work, The reality is not like that, what humans receive is part of a form of test from Allah whether human will choose to use it for good purpose or bad purpose.
Here are some of the main reasons Why do people often feel lost when they lose something :
1. Awareness arises through absence
People often don't realize the value of something while it's there, because its presence feels "ordinary." When something is gone, the emptiness it leaves behind becomes apparent, and only then do we truly realize its significance.
Example: When the electricity is on, we don't think much of it. But when it goes out, we realize how important it is.
2. Gratitude often comes too late
Gratitude and appreciation often come after the experience of loss. People easily get used to the comfort and presence of certain people or things, then take them for granted.
3. Emotional attachments aren't always conscious
Sometimes we have an emotional bond with something, but don't fully realize it until it's gone. Loss acts as a kind of "mirror" for the heart, showing how important that thing was in our lives.
4. Humans learn through pain
Loss is painful. But it is precisely from pain that humans can learn and grow so as not to be bound by the fleeting pleasures of this world. Pain makes us re-examine our values, priorities, and relationships.
5. Presence is difficult to see when there is too close a distance (like a hand blocking our view).
This is just as we cannot see our own face without a mirror, so too sometimes we cannot see the value of something because it is too close. When humans experience a loss that distances us, from that distance we can see more clearly.
6. Human Nature: Awareness through Loss
Spiritually, this is part of human nature—awakening and returning to God only after experiencing emptiness. Sometimes loss is a path to higher awareness.
In conclusion: we need to train ourselves to be grateful for the gifts from Allah, whether in a state of joy or sorrow, Sometimes we need to close our eyes when other people get worldly pleasures and we just use what Allah has given us, If what we receive can remind us of Allah's goodness, it means we can use it to give what we can to other people.