Hi, today I would like to share about the interesting topic, namely "You deserve to be in environments that bring out the softness in you, not the survival in you", the main reason why I choose that topic because many people struggle to fight with the environment, instead of building self worth to bring softness in ourselves, It should be noted that we live in this world to create characters that will be used by reality, if we are not able to create quality personality values, then reality will place us in an environment that weakens our personality, We need to remember that the quality of our personality determines whether reality will use us for something that is more expensive than our self-esteem or cheaper than our self-esteem.
There are 5 things we need to pay attention to value about our qualifications
1. Core Meaning
This advice conveys that everyone deserves to be in an environment that makes them feel calm, gentle, and become the best version of themselves naturally, not an environment that constantly forces them into a state of survival, stress, or constant alertness.
2. Psychological Perspective
The environment shapes behavior.
If someone lives in a place full of conflict, pressure, reproach, or threats, the brain will always be active in survival mode: anxious, defensive, easily angered, and finding it difficult to trust others.
The softness mode (rest/connection mode) is when someone feels safe, accepted, and valued.
This brings out the sides of:
- affection
- patience
- creativity
- empathy
- ability to connect with others
3. Implicit Message
Every reality invites you to:
a. Evaluate your environment
Does the place you are in right now:
- often make you mentally exhausted?
- make you feel like you have to be constantly alert?
- make you feel marginalized or unappreciated?
b. Prioritize mental health
You deserve to be in an environment that:
- does not require you to be tough
- does not force you to endure fear or pressure
- provides space to grow peacefully
c. Recognize your limits
This also implies the importance of saying:
"I need a healthy environment."
"I don't want to survive in a place that hurts me."
4. Life Wisdom
Often, people stay in bad environments because:
- they are afraid of being abandoned
- they are afraid of looking weak
- they are used to the pain
- they feel they have no choice
Every reality reminds us:
✅Softness is not weakness — it's a sign that you feel safe and safety is a right of every human being.
5. Practical Application
You can start by:
- choosing friends who make you feel calm, not tense
- working in a place that values you, not exploits you
- living with people who understand you, not demand from you
- reducing interaction with toxic people
- creating a peaceful personal space