Showing posts with label Confidence. Show all posts
Showing posts with label Confidence. Show all posts

Why can the feeling of failure increase even though there is a rating of 99.0% to 99.9%

  Hi, today I want to share an interesting topic, "why does the feeling of failure increase even though the ratio is 99.0% and 99.9%, The main reason why I chose this topic is because many people experience a shift in cognitive function when there is a difference in the failure ratio. The feeling of incongruity I describe where the difference between 99% and 99.9% success seems larger than the difference between 1 in 100 and 1 in 1000 failure rates, 
Failure arises comes from several cognitive biases and aspects of how we perceive numbers:

1. Framing Effects and Reference Points:
 * Success Rate as a "Goal": When we hear "success rate," our mental reference point is often 100% perfection. A 99% success rate means we're "only" 1% away from perfect, while 99.9% means we're "only" 0.1% away. That 0.9% difference feels significant because it's narrowing the gap to an ideal.
 * Failure Rate as an "Avoidance": When we hear "failure rate," our mental reference point is often 0% failure. A 1 in 100 failure rate means there's a small chance of something bad happening. A 1 in 1000 failure rate means that chance is even smaller. The absolute difference (1 in 100 vs. 1 in 1000) might seem small because both are already quite low.

2. Absolute vs. Relative Thinking:
 * Success Rates (Relative to 100%): When comparing 99% and 99.9%, we are implicitly thinking about the remaining 1% and 0.1%. The change from 1% to 0.1% is a 90% reduction in the failure rate (1% is ten times 0.1%). This relative reduction in the negative outcome feels very significant.
 * Failure Rates (Absolute Difference): When comparing 1 in 100 and 1 in 1000, we're focused on the absolute numbers of failures. While 1 in 1000 is indeed ten times better than 1 in 100, our brains don't always immediately perform that multiplicative comparison in the same way they do with percentages nearing perfection. It's an improvement, but perhaps not as dramatically felt.

3. The "Last Mile" Problem / Diminishing Returns:
 * Improving from 50% to 60% success might feel good, but the impact of improving from 99% to 99.9% often feels disproportionately large. This is because getting closer to perfection often requires significantly more effort, precision, and cost for smaller absolute gains. We intuitively understand that these "last few points" are the hardest to achieve, making their attainment feel more significant.

4. Cognitive Ease and Vividness:
 * "1 in 100" is easy to grasp. "1 in 1000" is also relatively easy. The difference between them might not immediately trigger a strong emotional response because both are fairly rare events.
 * However, when we think of 99.9% success, we might mentally picture "almost perfect" or "barely any mistakes," which is a very desirable and vivid outcome. The mental image associated with 99% might still include a noticeable number of errors, making the leap to 99.9% feel more substantial.

5. Anchoring and Adjustment:
 * When you hear 99%, your brain might "anchor" to that number. Then, when you hear 99.9%, you "adjust" your perception. Because the numbers are so close to 100%, even small absolute differences (like 0.9%) can feel large in that context.
 * With failure rates, if you're anchored at 1 in 100, moving to 1 in 1000 is an improvement, but it's still a relatively rare event, so the adjustment might not feel as impactful.
In essence, our brains are not always perfectly rational computers. We are influenced by how information is presented (framing), what we consider the ideal outcome (reference points), and the psychological weight we assign to "getting closer to perfect" versus "reducing rare occurrences." The "last mile" of improvement often carries a disproportionately high psychological value.

How to be confident in a relationship at anytime

  

  Hi all, today I would like to share about the interesting topic, namely "How to be confident in a relationship at any time", the main reason why I choose that topic because not everyone feels confident when they are in human's relationship, in my point of view, what causes people lack of confident in relationship because they lack of giving the good contribution when they made a new relationship at the first time, from some professionals who do the research in human's relationship, people who give less in contribution tend to behave low self-esteem, lack of confidence in relationships can stem from various psychological, emotional, and social factors. Here are some common causes:

1. Past Experiences
Trauma from Previous Relationships: Betrayal, infidelity, or abuse in prior relationships can lead to fear of rejection or distrust in new ones.
Negative Upbringing: Growing up in an environment where relationships were unstable or unhealthy may influence one’s ability to trust and feel secure.

2. Low Self-Esteem
Insecurity About Self-Worth: Feeling inadequate or unworthy of love can make it difficult to trust a partner’s affection.
Comparison to Others: Constantly comparing oneself to others (e.g., on social media or in real life) can create feelings of inferiority.

3. Fear of Vulnerability
Emotional Walls: Fear of being hurt or rejected may lead to avoidance of emotional intimacy.
Difficulty Expressing Feelings: A lack of confidence in communicating needs and emotions can create distance in a relationship.

4. Overthinking and Anxiety
Attachment Styles: Anxious attachment can cause overthinking about a partner’s actions or intentions, leading to self-doubt.
Fear of Abandonment: Constant worry about being left can erode confidence.

5. Unrealistic Expectations
Perfectionism: Expecting oneself or the relationship to be perfect can lead to feelings of inadequacy when reality doesn’t match.
Idealization: Placing a partner on a pedestal may make one feel they don’t measure up.

6. Lack of Communication or Feedback
Unclear Reassurance: If a partner doesn’t affirm or communicate their feelings, it can lead to self-doubt.
Misunderstandings: Poor communication can lead to assumptions and insecurity.

7. Social and Cultural Pressures
Judgment from Others: Fear of how the relationship or partner is perceived by friends, family, or society.
Cultural Norms: Expectations about gender roles or relationships can create feelings of inadequacy if not met.

How to Build Confidence in Relationships
Work on Self-Esteem: Focus on personal growth and self-worth.
Communicate Openly: Share fears and needs with your partner.
Heal from the Past: Seek therapy or support groups if past trauma affects the present.
Set Realistic Expectations: Accept that no relationship or person is perfect.
Practice Gratitude: Focus on the positive aspects of the relationship.

Building confidence in relationships takes time and effort, but with mutual understanding and self-reflection, it’s possible to foster a secure and fulfilling connection, hopefully this article can give you an insight how to improve your life, good luck.