🌪️ 1. Because since childhood, we are formed to be "someone else"
We grow up not with the question, "What do you like?", but with the sentence: "Don't be like that, you're embarrassed in front of people." "A good child should be like this." "What will people say later?"
We are formed by other people's standards first, not by our conscience.
🧠2. Because we are too busy comparing
Social media accelerates this. We see the best bits of other people's lives, then compare them to our deepest wounds.
Then comes the feeling: "I'm not great enough." "I should be like him." "I don't deserve to be me."
Comparing is the fastest way to lose your identity.
🎠3. Because we wear a mask to be accepted
We are afraid of being rejected, being considered weird, not attractive enough, not meeting the “standard of success”.
As a result, we pretend—being smart, cool, strong, funny, even though it’s tiring.
But wearing a mask all the time will make us forget our true selves.
🔒 4. Because there are unhealed wounds
Sometimes it’s hard to be ourselves because we feel that our true selves are not worthy.
It could be because of childhood trauma, rejection, or a sense of failure that has not been accepted.
“I’m afraid people will know who I really am… then they will leave.”
🧘♀️ 5. Because we are not used to being quiet and honest with ourselves
The world is so noisy.
We are busy chasing validation, but rarely sit still and ask ourselves: Who am I without all the achievements? What really makes me alive? If I didn’t have to please anyone, what would I do?
💡 So… how do I start being myself?
These small steps can help:
✅Get to know your inner voice: Make a habit of meditating for 5–10 minutes a day. Listen to your inner voice without judgment.
✅Slow down: Take a break. See if what you’re pursuing is really what you want.
✅Say no: You don’t have to be liked by everyone. Stand up for what you’re not.
✅Accept your hurts: Don’t hide them. Embrace them. Forgive them. Nurture them.
✅Make your world smaller, your world bigger: Compare less. Know more.
One simple way to start being yourself is:
> 🎯 Be honest with your own feelings and needs — even if only in your heart.
💡 Practical example:
When a friend asks you to hang out but you’re actually tired, try to admit to yourself:
> “I really need a break, not small talk.”
You may not have the courage to say no, but by being honest with yourself, you’re practicing awareness to recognize who you are and what you need.
Why is this effective?
Because internal honesty is the foundation of being yourself.
We can’t live authentically if we don’t know what we really feel.